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I should be going to bed but I wanted to direct whatever little bit of audience I still have to two related articles. The first, from The Nation (subscription required, but here’s the interesting bits) regarding a new Unicef report, Child Poverty in Perspective: An Overview of Child Well-Being in Rich Countries:

Congratulations: Children in the United States do not have the worst quality of life in the developed world. That honor is held by Britain–with the United States a close second. America’s infant mortality rate is exceeded only by Hungary’s; New Zealand is the only country where more people under 19 meet violent deaths each year. On teenage motherhood, we’re way ahead: forty-six births for every 1,000 girls between 15 and 19. The closest challenger (New Zealand again) can manage only thirty. Children born in the richest nation on earth are also the most likely to be noticeably poorer than their neighbors: 21.7 percent of America’s children live in households whose income is less than half the national median. Britain, at 16.2 percent, comes second in the inequality sweepstakes.

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The study shows that the two countries with the greatest economic inequality are also failing their children in less tangible ways. British children reported the worst family and peer relationships and the highest incidence overall of risky behavior (smoking, drinking and unprotected sex); American children ranked third from the bottom (above Britain and Poland) in terms of their personal feelings of well-being. Sure, American adolescents drink and smoke less than kids in some other countries. But the cost of the right’s attempt to meet teenage sexuality with moralizing and repression rather than education is obvious in the teenage pregnancy rates. The country that came out best overall in the study was the Netherlands, known for its traditions of openness and tolerance.

The areas where American children fare worse than most–infant mortality, low birth weight, early childbearing, family instability and child poverty–are all directly related to the status of women. As Ruth Rosen writes in this issue, American women are still underpaid; still working double shifts; still shouldering on their own the burden of care for children and the elderly; still denied the right to control their fertility; still seen as a “special interest group” rather than half the nation. It is incredible that these things still need saying more than a generation after the rebirth of the women’s movement. If the other half can’t be made to see that women’s rights are vital for the whole community, the effects of gender inequality on children of both sexes might at least offer a compelling argument.

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But at least we can afford massive tax cuts and an immoral war.

The second is more narrowly focused on child care and is also at The Nation, but it is a non-subscription article so I will just post this minor excerpt and encourage you to follow the link.

It is as though Americans are trapped in a time warp, still convinced that women should and will care for children, the elderly, homes and communities. But of course they can’t, now that most women have entered the workforce. In 1950 less than a fifth of mothers with children under age 6 worked in the labor force. By 2000 two-thirds of these mothers worked in the paid labor market.

Both articles underline the disassociation in American politics with true family values. Not the faux values proposed by the Republicans or the rhetoric from the Democrats. These are the values that American families care about. Or at least they would if anyone told them there was another way.

A copy of the Unicef report can be found here.

I’m always discovering new horrible things that women have done in order to fit into beauty standards now and in the past. Whether it is the recent Western Barbie-doll ideal, Muslim women spending their lives hidden from the world, or Chinese children having their feet bound or many, many others; men (and the women they use as enforcers) have forced women to go through entire lives of abuse and shame in order to look the right way.

So when I read this article on the BBC News site about girls in Mauritania being force-fed, it struck as a bit of a novel approach to the abuse, but I don’t think it is any different from what young girls and women all over the world deal with every day. Why can’t we just accept that people are different and quit trying to force everyone to conform to these arbitrary ideals? Our depraved obsession with destroying anyone who falls outside of certain parameters is going to end up destroying all of us. No one fits into them and anyone who claims they do is a hypocrite.

She argued that in the end the girls were grateful.

“When they are small they don’t understand, but when they grow up they are fat and beautiful,” she said.

“They are proud and show off their good size to make men dribble. Don’t you think that’s good?”

No, I think it is one of the saddest things I’ve ever read. It’s right up there with “Do it to Julia!

She will be so relieved.

At least some people in Congress seem to think so. Apparently, a woman is a “female human being who is capable of becoming pregnant.” That is according to page 9 of the Unborn Child Pain Awareness Act (pdf). Click the first link to go to Feministing for more reasons this is a ridiculous bill.

I don’t usually listen to Country music anymore, but I was flipping through the channels the other day and heard this song “I Loved Her First” by Heartland. I’m not sure if it is sweet or creepy. It just reminds me of those creepy Purity Balls. I don’t know, maybe I’m being too sensitive, but can you imagine a man singing that song about his son? You can listen to it on their Myspace page, but I printed the lyrics below:

Look at the two of you dancing that way
Lost in the moment and each other’s face
So much in love you’re alone in this place
Like there’s nobody else in the world
I was enough for her not long ago
I was her number one
She told me so
And she still means the world to me
Just so you know
So be careful when you hold my girl
Time changes everything
Life must go on
And I’m not gonna stand in your way

But I loved her first and I held her first
And a place in my heart will always be hers
From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
And I prayed that she’d find you someday
But it’s still hard to give her away
I loved her first

How could that beautiful women with you
Be the same freckled face kid that I knew
The one that I read all those fairy tales to
And tucked into bed all those nights
And I knew the first time I saw you with her
It was only a matter of time

But I loved her first and I held her first
And a place in my heart will always be hers
From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
And I prayed that she’d find you someday
But it’s still hard to give her away
I loved her first

From the first breath she breathed
When she first smiled at me
I knew the love of a father runs deep
Someday you might know what I’m going through
When a miracle smiles up at you
I loved her first

From the asshole-in-chief’s press conference today:

In my first act of bipartisan outreach since the election, I shared with her the names of some Republican interior decorators who can help her pick out the the new drapes for her new offices.

What a chauvinist prick.

I don’t really know what to say about this that Feministing, Feministe, and Pandagon haven’t already said, but everyone needs to be aware of this. An appellate court in Maryland has ruled that after sex has begun a woman has no right to withdraw her consent.

Feministe had this to say:

let’s pretend that “average person” Partner A doesn’t stop when “average person” Partner B asks him to. Partner A keeps going. Partner B asks him to stop again. He doesn’t. Then Partner B yells at him to stop. He doesn’t. Partner B tries to push him off. He holds Partner B down. Partner B screams for him to stop, cries, struggles to get away. Partner A doesn’t stop until he’s finished.

What does that sound like? Would a reasonable person, with no intent to harm another, act in the way that Partner A did? Should Partner A have legal protection? Is this a standard that we want enshrined in the law?

Pandagon:

The opinion has the background as to why once consent is given, it can’t be withdrawn. Basically, the tradition of laws against rape are based on the premise that women are male property and once the property is penetrated by another man, she’s deflowered and can’t be reflowered, so anything after the initial penetration is not of interest to a criminal court. No, I’m not kidding, read page 32. [[I read it, she's right]]

To make the situation even more distressing, it’s clear from reading the rest of the opinion that the victim of the rape wasn’t so much consenting as accepting the notion that she had to be compliant if she didn’t want to get hurt any worse. The assailant had already held her down and tried to shove his penis in her mouth, had already tried to forcibly penetrate her, and when he realized she was going to continue to offer resistance he said that he didn’t want to rape her, so she gave in and right after he started to penetrate her, she resisted again and he wouldn’t stop.

I weep for my daughter.

Exactly how hostile to family values does the Republican party have to get before people start waking up?

Remember how just two years ago George Bush claimed he wanted to put a stop to human trafficking – i.e., women being forced into sexual slavery?

Then why was the Bush administration’s premiere advocate for stopping such sexual slavery forced out of his job a while back?

According to the Sunday Los Angeles Times, he was fired because convicted criminal lobbyist Jack Abramoff was representing one of the countries that most profits from sexual slavery and human trafficking, the Northern Mariana Islands. Abramoff wanted this Bush administration official fired because the official’s anti-human-trafficking agenda – now George Bush’s agenda – posed a direct threat to Abramoff’s pro-sex-slave client.

But Jack Abramoff doesn’t have the power to fire a Bush administration official – all he can do is ask. Someone inside the Bush administration had to do Abramoff’s dirty work and fire the official on behalf of Abramoff and his client. According to the Los Angeles Times, that someone was former senior Bush White House official, and now head of the Republican party, Ken Mehlman.

One of George Bush’s top aides, the man who ran Bush’s re-election campaign, and the man who thanks to George Bush now runs the Republican party, is also reportedly the man who fired a top Bush official in charge of stopping the international human sex slave trade because Jack Abramoff’s clients like sex slaves.

Just when you think your opinion of the Republican party can’t drop any lower, they find new ways to disgust.

No Tresspassing

via feministing

Apparently hiting women for fun and profit isn’t enough for Mike Tyson. Great move for someone known for rape and domestic abuse, by the way. He’d also like to be a manwhore:

If we were making a list of people most likely to strike a blow for women’s sexual equality, Mike Tyson, convicted rapist, and Heidi Fleiss, convicted tax evader (a consequence of her time as the “Hollywood Madam”), probably wouldn’t rank too high. But as the Los Angeles Times’ Las Vegas Blog, Movable Buffet, reported yesterday, Tyson is apparently in talks with Fleiss to be one of the first hired for her groundbreaking “stud farm,” which, if approved, would be the first Nevada brothel to sell the sexual services of men instead of women.

Fleiss tells blogger Richard Abowitz she thinks Tyson “definitely would” be one of her employees, and that the former champ told her “it’s every man’s dream to please every woman no matter how old, how young, how fat, how pretty, how ugly, it’s every man’s dream to please every woman and especially get paid for it … Hell yeah, I’ll be your number one stud.” That’s funny. I sort of thought it was the dream of most old, young, fat, pretty and ugly women to avoid sleeping with convicted rapists.

There is even an application online for anyone interested in turning tricks with Mr. Tyson.